Tuesday, July 18, 2006


In this morning's paper two front-page articles were placed side by side. One dealt with the city manager's warning to commissioners that they need to stick to a strict budget for the coming year. This means various local lobby groups may not receive the funds they want for their pet projects. The other informed the public that the same city commissioners granted the same city manager a $9,000 raise, also for the coming year.

So, do you suppose the editor of the paper wants local citizens to be outraged by the city manager's raise?

Before anyone accuses the editor of striking a low blow, I think it's fair to say we all do this at times. We line up the facts in the order most suited to attain our desired outcome. I remember doing this with my parents. You know how it goes--remind them of my good grades and how I've been keeping my room clean before asking for certain privileges. Greasing the old wheels for a smooth, nonstop ride to getting my way.

I hate to admit it, but I know I still do this. With my husband. With my kids. And I even try to do it with the Lord. Except in God's case, He knows my heart. He understands that I'm trying to manipulate Him, even before I lay my first card on the table.

Manipulation is a next-door neighbor to deceit. When I realize I'm doing it, I should back up and start over with honesty as my guide.

Do you ever catch yourself trying to manipulate your parents? Friends? Teachers? What can we do to overcome this tendency? I'd love to hear your thoughts.


Samantha said...

Actually, I do. I never realized how serious it was until I just read this. I mean, it is rather small stuff like 'crying' to get to drive the new car. Or just drive in general, but this causes rough spots with my parents and me. When I am school, too, I work the teachers and everyone around me.. thanks for the post and pointing out something I need to work on!!!
p.s. I'm the same Sam that always comments, I just gave my myspace this time instead of my xanga.

Jeanne Damoff said...

Thanks for your honesty, Sam. Wanting to work on it is the first step. I'll pray for you if you'll pray for me. Deal? :)

Samantha said...

Thanks a whole lot! I appreciate it! (And it's a deal)