Friday, July 20, 2007

What Do Girls Want?

This past Valentine's Day, my husband and I went to an event at our church for married couples. They provided desserts and coffee along with a program that was designed to encourage our relationship with each other. They had a band that sang all kinds of romantic love songs. I'm sure I had a grin across my face the entire time because I love love songs. At the end of the event, my husband put his arm around me as we walked out the door. I nestled myself under his arm and rested my head on his chest. He looked at me and said, "You know what I've been thinking..." I thought he had been thinking about how great his wife is or how beautiful she is or how much he loves his wife. I gazed up into his eyes and was caught off guard by the finale of his statement. Here is was: "You know what I've been thinking? I've realized why Arby's are so good in Atlanta. It's because their headquarters are located here." Arby's??!! I couldn't believe that after a romantic event he was thinking Arby's!

Isn't that just like us? We are so different from guys. Who knows what they want and how they think. I don't think I will ever understand why they can play video games all day long. And I'm sure they will never understand how most of us could talk to a brick wall. Since we are so different, it's hard to see what we were designed to want. We, as women, were designed by God to want what He wants when it comes to relationships. Sometimes that can get blurry because there are a lot of other people trying to tell you want you should want.

When it comes to relationships, what is it that you want? I would love to hear your thoughts!

1 comment:

Timothy Fish said...

I hope you will pardon me for intruding in a girl’s discussion, but I think I have something to add to the conversation. The issue of how women think versus how men think was something I considered when I considered writing Searching for Mom. I knew that it would be just as difficult for me to understand how women think as it is for women to understand how men think. I ended up writing the book anyway. I think that men are as romantic or even more so than women, but we express it differently. Though I do not remember the incident, my mother likes to tell how that she got the bright idea that she was going to say “I love you” to me everyday. I don’t know what she expected, but she came to me and said, “I love you” and I responded, “I know.” Though I cannot speak for all men, the words do not mean even half as much as the actions. In The Princess Bride, the words were “as you wish” after which he would do whatever it was that she wanted, but what he really was saying was, “I love you.” The action matters. We guys do things and expect women to realize that we do it out of love, but it seems that women fail to see that and even expect the guy to do certain things because that is what guys are supposed to do. To a guy, doing something for the girl is so much better than the romantic music and the words.