Sometimes the easiest way to discover who we are is to know who we are not.
We are not our mothers.
We are not our friends.
We are not like anyone else out there.
And we shouldn't feel like we have to "be something we're not."
It took me many years to figure this out, and I still struggle. I feel guilty when I can't please everyone. I compare myself to other women and other writers. She is thinner. She sells more books. She's a better speaker. Her blogs are always more interesting . . .
Of course, this is just crazy. Instead of appreciating my natural talents and gifts, I'm too busy studying my weak spots with a magnifying glass! I'm also leaving God out of the equation.
The Bible says, “Let’s just go ahead and be what we were made to be, without ... comparing ourselves with each other, or trying to be something we aren’t” (Romans 12:5 – 6, The Message).
The problem with comparison is, we always measure our weaknesses against the strengths of others. Instead, we need to thank God for our strengths. We can also ask God to help us overcome our weaknesses — not because we want to compare ourselves, or look good in someone else’s eyes, but because we want to be the best person out there.
Who needs the Army . . . I need God to help me "Be All I Can Be!"