Monday, March 20, 2006

moms just need to know

So, I hung out with about 6,000 moms this weekend. . .

Cool, huh?

I taught a workshop called Home Sweet Home, chatting with moms about the things you say makes home a safe place.

These moms were there because they cared. They wanted to get the scoop on how to connect with you, how to talk about things that mattered, and how to let you know how much you mean to them.

I listened to stories all day long. Some moms cried. Some moms bragged on their teens. Others listened quietly and I could see the pain, knowing when the room cleared they'd share their concerns, their fears.

Being a mom is a hard job. I guess that's why they honor them with a whole day once a year.

Just doesn't seem like a lot when you consider what these women do, or hope to do, in your life.

Maybe we should have a mom's day once a month or on a quarterly basis.

Or maybe it's good just to let them know every once in a while how amazing we think they are.

They need to hear it -- honest. If you think they just ought to know it, hmm. . . Think again. Most of the time moms work really hard and don't get to hear the "thank you" or "I love you" that comes with all that they do.

An unexpected hug is like receiving candy and hearts and flowers all on the same day.

So, step away from the computer and find your mom -- or the person who loves you like a mom -- and give them a hug for no reason. If she faints, she'll come around sooner or later. If she asks you why, just tell her it's because she's your mom and you love her. Even if she doesn't respond, I promise it means something very special.

Mom just need to know. . . you know?


Anonymous said...

You don't know my mom. Sometimes I try to be nice and say I love her, or hug her, but she just acts all astounded and makes a big deal out of it. Like, I can't even explain it. But when I do my chores without being told she does the whole, "Do you have a fever?" thing. Maybe you're not familiar with it. But when I try to be a good kid and say that I love her she goes on and on about how she's not sure I do.

T. Suzanne Eller said...

You are right. : ) I don't know her. But I do know this. It's not so much the response that is important. You tell her that you love her and appreciate her -- even when she's imperfect.


Sarah Anne Sumpolec said...

I'm sorry that happens to you. You keep at it though, because God sees you and your sweet heart, even if no one else does.

I have a mom who just doesn't seem to care much about me - yet I'm still called to honor her. It can be tough and what I told you is exactly what I still tell myself - God sees it all. He can love me even when she can't.