Monday, April 22, 2013

Top 10 Reasons Why Sexual Activity is Physically, Emotionally, and Socially Dangerous!

No one doubts that sexual activity is physically, emotionally, and socially dangerous.

What are the risks? Here is . . .

The Top 10 List

10. The risk of death. More than 600,000 cases of AIDS have been reported in the United States since 1981, and as many as 900,000 Americans may be infected with HIV.

1 Corinthians 6:18 says, "Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a man commits are outside his body, but he who sins sexually sins against his own body."

9. The risk of lost relationships. When you choose to develop a sexual relationship with someone, you've immediately changed the definition of the relationship. There is no such thing as casual sex. Once you have developed a sexual relationship, that relationship turns a critical corner. After the relationship ends, you and your partner will experience that guilt and pain of promises broken.

Hebrews 12:16 says, "See that no one is sexually immoral, or is godless like Esau, who for a single meal sold his inheritance rights as the oldest son."

8. Risks of incurable disease. Imagine that you have found that one special person with whom you want to share your life ... and now you are forced to break the news that you have an incurable disease. Even though such diseases like herpes are generally not considered life threatening, there are no cures. Not only is it incurable, it fills a life with worries, awkward revelations, and continuous need for medication.

1 Corinthians 6:13 says, "The body is not meant for sexual immorality, but for the Lord, and the Lord for the body."

7. The risk of damaging the destiny of your future marriage. There is no way that premarital sex of any kind could be a positive thing for your future marriage. (Just ask my husband how he feels "knowing" about my past.) It only causes suspicion, mistrust, and regret.

Hebrews 13:4 says, "Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral."

6. The risk of permanently damaging your testimony as a Christian. You'll never be able to honestly say, "I was a virgin before I was married." You'll never be able to live as an example of committed purity.

Ephesians 5:3 says, "But among you there must not be even a hint of sexual immorality, or of any kind of impurity, or of greed, because these are improper for God's holy people."

5. The risk of depression. Those who participate in premarital sex experience emotional damage that may lead to an increased chance of mental depression and emotional despair.

2 Corinthians 12:21 says, "I am afraid that when I come again my God will humble me before you, and I will be grieved over many who have sinned earlier and have not repented of the impurity, sexual sin and debauchery in which they have indulged."

4. The risk of placing your future children in spiritual harm's way. The Bible clearly speaks of the concept of generational sin. What you sow (plant) spiritually may be reaped in the life of your children. Remain pure before God and you'll be tenaciously guarding the future of the next generation.

Proverbs 20:7 says, "The righteous man leads a blameless life; blessed are his children after him."

3. The risk of sexual dysfunction. People spend millions of dollars to correct sexual dysfunction through drugs and psychotherapy. Why? Because they entered marriage with unresolved sexual issues. For example, a man may think that he will be free from the curse of pornography once he gets married, only to find that the problems are even more noticeable and controlling. Sexual purity before marriage is the first step to incredible sexual fulfillment after marriage.

Mark 7:21 says, "For from within, out of men's hearts, come evil thoughts, sexual immorality, theft, murder, adultery,"

2. The risk of shame. Premarital sex imputes a spiritual state of shame that becomes a major weapon for our enemy. God forgives you, but you will still be vulnerable to Satan's whispering accusations on your worth.

1 Corinthians 5:1-2 says, "It is actually reported that there is sexual immorality among you . . . Shouldn't you rather have been filled with grief?"

1. The risk of disobeying God and letting Satan get a foothold. The Bible, time after time tells us to flee sexual sins. Why? Because it is a major strategy of the devil to sabotage God's work on Earth. How can God work through you, when you aren't living up to His standards?

1 Thessalonians 4:3 says, "It is God's will that you should be sanctified: that you should avoid sexual immorality."

So, what do you think?


Erin @ the Whatever Girls said...

Nodding my head through this entire post. This is great stuff. So glad to have found your site through Tricia.

-Erin/Whatever Girls

Samantha O'Brien said...

I understand you're a Christian and you view sexuality differently, but this post in itself is very damaging. Teen pregnancy rates are highest in conservative states for a reason, and lists like this do not contribute to decreasing teen pregnancy rates.

Number 10 is just complete freak out. Have your partner checked, have yourself checked, and there is little risk for this. Use protection as well. This misinformation that contraceptives are not as strong as they seem needs to stop. Condoms are very durable when used correctly.

Number nine is just ridiculous. If you lose your relationship because of sex, it probably wouldn't have lasted in the first place. And the only reason anyone experiences guilt is due to sexual shaming. I understand as a Christian you believe in waiting for marriage, but shaming those who don't wait isn't helping anyone.

Number eight is shaming again and freak out as well. I know someone who has herpes because she contracted it from her mother. There is more than one way to contract these incurable diseases that doesn't have to be sex. Kissing is one of those things. Should we ban kissing until marriage?

Number seven is more shaming. If your husband wants to leave you because he finds out about your sexual past, you have no business being with him in the first place if he cannot accept all parts of you, including your past. I certainly wouldn't want to be with someone who obsesses about my past rather than respects the person I currently am.

And depression? Don't make me laugh. If you become depressed because you had sex, you really need reevaluate why the heck you would get depressed about something like this in the first place. I've actually been depressed, and I find it insulting you would think someone could become depressed from this. That isn't depression. That's shame from rigid social standards that make you feel dirty for not waiting. No. Real depression is from uncontrollable circumstances, like chronic pain--not because you had sex early and insist on drowning in shame when you very well can control how you feel about the situation.

And the rest I won't even touch on. I get it. You're Christian. Not having sex before marriage is important to you. But studies have shown teens have less sex when they're informed, not misinformed, about sexuality and contraceptives. Scare tactics do nothing to deter teens from having sex. I have no idea where you live, but I live in Georgia, which has the highest teen pregnancy rate and the most misguided programs on human sexuality. Since graduating, I can tell you on both hands and both feet how many girls have gotten pregnant due to misinformation. Teens don't bother with contraception because sex ed programs make contraception seem pointless when they keep spouting off the ineffectiveness of condoms and birth control.

Sarah Anne Sumpolec said...

Samantha- I'd love to know how old you are and what your current relationship status is. I've decided to leave your comment because you were (somewhat) respectful with your disagreement.

But just because you disagree doesn't make what you said "true".

As Christians, we here at the Good Life cannot choose to measure what is true or not true based on what society thinks. Your viewpoint is pretty much the worldview of this culture and you are absolutely free to think it's ridiculous for anyone to disagree with you. If someone says they are a Christian - then "truth" is measured by the Bible. And yes, the Bible has quite a bit to say about sexual purity.

Nothing that Tricia said is wrong - it's all true - and I could even add several points to the list. Did you know that Tricia was a teen mom? She is sharing her heart from someone who has been a teen and been right where a lot of these teens are now.

Did you know that sexually transmitted diseases are increasing at an alarming rate - go check out and see how this woman shares about sexual activity without using any scripture at all. Her points are something worth pondering as well.

Tricia is not trying to shame anyone - she is sharing a warning. Sex before marriage will bring damage. That is guaranteed. Why? Because it is a sin and sin always brings destruction with it. The good news is not only can we be forgiven of our sins - but by following Christ we also can learn to have victory over sin. No matter where we are at, or what we have done, Christ offers both forgiveness and freedom from sin. That's a pretty amazing thing. (And there are a couple links to the right about "finding Jesus" and "getting to know Jesus" which might give you a starting point to what we are talking about.

I take it you are not a Christian - and that's your choice. But to dismiss Tricia's post as ridiculous and shameful tells me that you aren't really open to hearing any other viewpoint. That's probably the most important thing for you to consider right now. I've given you Pam's information - Tricia has written books. Do some real research - not just what you've seen with your immediate friends or in the mirror - research the topic thoroughly from every side - not just one side. You might be surprised by what you find out.

One of the biggest mistakes people make is deciding what is "true" based on their own experiences and experiences of those around them.

Whatever your viewpoint, you're still welcome here. Do you see how Tricia shared a Scripture point with each of her points? That's our starting point here - the Word of God. Just because teens are sexually active doesn't make it healthy, wise or right. That's one of our most important messages here.

I hope you really dig into this topic and open yourself up to some new information. I did - I've read countless studies - and found out some amazing things.

I bet you'll find them too if you look:-)

Praying for you tonight Samantha...

Kanyinsola said...

God bless you Sarah!!! I am pleasantly surprised and happy that you share may views concerning sexual purity... Not feeling inferior but I had this mentality that white people throw caution to the wind(even christians) and don't see anything wrong in sex before marriage. Now am glad that all over the world there are people that still stand for being sexually pure!!!! Am really happy! Uve strengthened my resolve! By the way... I'm black! A Nigerian to be precise!

God bless you!!!!