Becoming

Camy here! We have a college Bible study at our house twice a month, and last Sunday we discussed finding a significant other.

We asked, “What qualities do you value in a boyfriend/girlfriend/spouse?”

You list it on a piece of paper.

Now look at those qualities. Instead of looking for someone who has all those qualities, you need to make an effort to become the person who has those qualities.

Do you value loyalty? Well, what can you do this week to grow and become a more loyal person?

Do you value kindness? Well, what can you do this week to grow and become a kinder, more thoughtful person?

Do you value honesty? Well, what can you do this week to grow and become a more honest person with your friends and family?

Rather than focusing on the person you want to date, instead focus on yourself and how you can become someone that a really cool person would want to date.

You want to become a person who is more Christ-like and who loves Jesus so that when that perfect person comes along, the two of you will help each other become better people.

So what qualities do you value in a mate? And what can you do this week to grow and become those qualities?

Camy Tang writes romance with a kick of wasabi. Out now is the fourth book in her Sushi series, Weddings and Wasabi. She is a staff worker for her church youth group, and leads one of the worship teams for Sunday service. On her blog, she ponders frivolous things like knitting, running, dogs, and Asiana. Visit her website to sign up for her quarterly newsletter.

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